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9 ways to resolve and avoid conflict with your significant other

9 ways to resolve and avoid conflict with your significant other

Even if you're not a fighter, annoyances happen... people get bothered, and knowing how to properly deal with the situation can help diffuse a lot of tension. You want to live life to its fullest, and that involves not getting into fights with your significant other. These 9 tips and tricks will teach you how to keep the peace in any situation.

  1. Establish regular communication. Even if you're with them everyday, don't assume they know what you want or need, be specific about the way you are feeling.

  2. Think about the way you express yourself and things you are missing or not saying that can help you convey your message across better.

  3. Let them know you want to properly understand them . (You don't have to agree with what they are saying but you have to be able to also see things from their perspective and empathize with them.)

  4. Be prepared to compromise on activities; be realistic about the time you have at a certain location and go by the rule of thirds. 1/3 goes to what your partner wants to do, 1/3 to what you want to do, and the last third goes to things you both want to enjoy. Make sure the number of things to do in each category is equal & this ensures there is no resentment on either side.

  5. Don't give up when things go wrong. No relationship is perfect, & expecting pure joy & bliss all the time is unrealistic. Things happen, people get hurt, bothered, angry or annoyed or all at the same time! We all have feelings. So if you value him/her, work with the other person to make sure both their and your needs are met. Even the travel couples on Instagram have their highs & lows! Their life isn't all beautiful preset pictures. (That isn't to say to let someone step all over you; if there is something that is bothering you say it the right way by letting them know how you feel & don't escalate the problem by pointing fingers.)

  6. If you do run into a problem, a good way of solving issues is to first, think about your goal: what would your ideal outcome/resolution be? When you come back to your partner after thinking things through, make sure they know that you come in peace. (lol literally.) Like I said, don't come in pointing fingers, but set the tone towards positive change. Let them know how you feel and offer possible solutions to help you reach your goal. (You can write down your possible solutions if that helps or if you have horrible memory like me.) Last but not least, include your partner in the discussion. Ask for their thoughts, how they feel about the possible solutions you mentioned, and ask for their input of their own possible solutions (if they have any).

  7. Learn to accept differences. Realize we all have different ways of dealing with things. We all deal with emotions like pain and hurt differently, & there's no right or wrong way to feel, but if their way of dealing with things is causing you harm, come up with a tangible solution. Harmful coping strategies is learned behavior that can be unlearned. Healthy ways of coping with emotions and problems can be learned and inaugurated to a relationship as long as the other person is willing to put in the effort. Also realize that no relationship is ever one sided; there are things that both people can do better and no one person should ever take the blame for everything.

  8. You will never reach the "ultimate perfect relationship" with anybody. People are constantly learning and changing; and that's the great thing about it. You get to grow with that person, and experience that person's own growth in their own personal life and in the relationship. They may not be perfect, but they're always willing to try and change for the better & that's how you know it's worth it.

9. Often times you're with someone so much it can be easy to take them for granted. But don't let the passion die! Don't not tell them you love them because, "they already know". If you have a positive thought about them let them know every time you have it! You're lucky to have each other! Show a little appreciation & it'll go a long way. Sure it's simple, but you'll be surprised at how much it means.


What do you guys think? If you're in a relationship or have had a good past experience, leave a comment down below with any tips you may have!

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